SoulfillExpressions

I feel a bit heavy today and have some meaningful thoughts which I want to share with you all..

Why heavy ?

Tomorrow happens to be my father’s fourth death anniversary ..and I am not able to go to the rituals due to some personal problems ..specially as my daughter was traumatised after seeing her grandfather’s death in front of her eyes and that scene still looms large in her eyes and that sadness has settled in her in the form of anxiety , a bit of depressive tendencies ..

As a mother did not want her to face that when she was going to a conflicting state and refresh or trigger her wounds ..but as a daughter so badly missed to go there . For hours I was in dilemma and state of helplesness but finally it just stuck ..would I be able to feel him/find him/offer something to him only at one particular place ? Through one particular ritual ? The obvious answer was’ NO‘!

Then I thought what next ?

Then the answer came he was a pleasant and kind soul . He loved celebrating life . Even after my mother’s death ..when he went to utter loneliness ..despite of the sadness and loneliness ..he celebrated life each moment ..he loved to live !

Delicious food and brand new clothes were his favourite things ..and he did the same for everyone ..wherever he went ..had bonds with everybody …and then it came to my mind that rather than feeling sad , lonely and helpless in his memory ..I must take it as a lavish celebration ..cook his favourite meal …buy new clothes for the people who are around and he had a good connection with …and immediately that made me feel empowered and happy ..

And then I understood its high time we change perspectives ..we need to learn our dear departed ones are energies and souls ..they need to be felt …more than being worshipped …they need to be celebrated rather than being mourned upon..this is the full cycle of life ..one who has come in this world has to go …

Dear readers ..

Trust me as I write this , I feel its his guidance working through me …and wanting to give you all the message that if you are sad because of someone you really loved and he/she has departed ..please know they are around and would not feel good by seeing you sad …

Please smile ..as I smile right now while writing this blogpost !

Dear father ..

Please know that your daughter smiles ..please guide and protect and also please bless your little dear granddaughter …may she also learn to celebrate life as you used to do ..!

Dear readers ..

If you feel resonated with this blogpost …please tell your thoughts in comments ..

Would let you know tomorrow how I celebrated his fond memory ..

Till then ..just smile and try to change perspectives …